Ask Caleb Anything (at least for a few days)

Caleb Jones

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Sooooooo this is starting to look like a junior high school dance where the music is playing but no one in the crowd is dancing because everyone’s afraid of being the first one to step out on the dance floor.

I’ll be the first one. It’s time to play “Ask Caleb Anything.” If you have any general questions on anything within the realm of Alpha Male 2.0 I’m qualified to help with (location independent businesses, nonmonogamous relationships, online dating, investing/finance, younger women, etc), or even any questions about me, ask away and I will respond with some brief answers. Please ask your question the correct subforum; that way we can have some separation in the topics.
I’ll do this for the next few days to get things kicked off here.

Another option is to start a new thread and mention something you’ve done lately that has worked for you (in business or with women) so that you can help your fellow Alpha 2.0 brothers. But questions are okay too.
 

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Hi Caleb! Let me start with the first question. I actually asked it just now on blackdragonblog.com.
I read your book on Amazon and completely get concept of MLTR, but there are some real every day life issues that I’m struggling with when having two early stage MLTR in the same time (Before the Talk with any of them). How to deal if one MLTR comes to the same bar while I am having a date with another MLTR and doing KINO/kissing? Cause inevitably some level of drama will happen and she can even make a scene, even if my EFA in first month is ideal.
Second problem is similar. It’s a kind of weird to have a dinner date with MLTR, sex on a nearby beach and then not kiss her at the end of the date when you drive her home/wait Uber with her. Obviously sometimes people that I know see that as social scene in my city is not that big, and they might share with other MLTR that comes from the same social circle. Are you kissing MLTR at the beginning/end of date or not because that can be seen by her as a boyfriend behaviour?
 

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How to deal if one MLTR comes to the same bar while I am having a date with another MLTR and doing KINO/kissing? Cause inevitably some level of drama will happen and she can even make a scene, even if my EFA in first month is ideal.

Second problem is similar. It’s a kind of weird to have a dinner date with MLTR, sex on a nearby beach and then not kiss her at the end of the date when you drive her home/wait Uber with her.
You can kiss an MLTR after a date. No kissing after a date is only for pre-Lock-In women.

Obviously sometimes people that I know see that as social scene in my city is not that big, and they might share with other MLTR that comes from the same social circle.
That kind of thing is only a concern if you live in a small town (which yes, is a problem) or if you are dating women in the same social circle at the same time (which I do not recommend).
 

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What are some good alpha 2.0 role models?
If you're talking about celebrities or public figures, they are very few. And most of them are not 100% Alpha 2.0 but come close. A few examples off the top of my head:

Will Smith
Gene Simmons prior to 2011
Penn Jillette
John McAfee

...and a few others I can't think of at the moment.

We really need to come up with a comprehensive list because I get this question a lot but I'm not tied into pop culture very much (except for movies).
 

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Hi man! Been following your system for quite a while now with great success. Have a couple of questions.

The once-a-week rule, does this apply only after lock-in? Ie. is it all right to schedule 2nd and 3rd date within a week (violating the once-a-week rule)

Im short (175cm / 5'9), would you ask women their height / telling yours before meeting them?

Also, when im reading your content, I feel you describe everything as much harder compared to my experience. I have a crazy date to sex ratio. Do you think this is because my age (26), and will get harder over time, or do you think its because of other factors (my look, personality etc.) ?
 

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You can kiss an MLTR after a date. No kissing after a date is only for pre-Lock-In women.

That kind of thing is only a concern if you live in a small town (which yes, is a problem) or if you are dating women in the same social circle at the same time (which I do not recommend).
Great blog post and answer, thanks BD. I think for few reasons, I'll have to bring up "The Talk" earlier, just like musicians.

Talking about "The Talk" I got an idea about early soft indirect intro of "The Talk" and that would be mentioning to my MLTR how things worked in my past open relationship. What I mean is the following. When girls ask me about my last LTR and if I cheated my last LTR (which all girls like to ask or I can drive conversation in that direction) I'm thinking of telling her that none of us was cheating because we had an open relationship. Then depending on how she reacts I can plan when to introduce The Talk.

Does this idea make sense and have you tried that approach? I used in the past conversations about my ex LTRs to showcase to new girls my frame/values and what I want/don't want, but only in other topics like travel, sports, money. i.e. saying that "I never wanted to work or do any business with my Ex LTRs".
 

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Hi there.

I'm considering to have an OM next year. Have you ever written any specific post about acquiring hot, new FBs after an open marriage? I mean cute and sexy girls, not average ones, nor the Sugar/Salt Daddy route.

Every hot FB I've gotten over Tinder asked me about whether I'm in a serious relationship, so I feel that my chance to get new FBs over dating online will get significantly smaller after getting married (If I don't lie, of course, and I don't intend to). How to deal with that question as a married man?
 

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Have you ever written any specific post about acquiring hot, new FBs after an open marriage? I mean cute and sexy girls, not average ones, nor the Sugar/Salt Daddy route.
You're describing the bulk of Caleb's work.

Besides BlackDragonBlog.com

these two books he wrote fit exactly what you need to know to get over misconceptions about how simple it is to date hot women even if you have an OM.

Book 1

Book 2
 

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The once-a-week rule, does this apply only after lock-in?
Yes.

Ie. is it all right to schedule 2nd and 3rd date within a week (violating the once-a-week rule)
Not only all right, but preferable.

Im short (175cm / 5'9), would you ask women their height / telling yours before meeting them?
No. Plus, if you're talking about online dating, her height is already on her profile.

BTW, I don't consider 5'9" as "short" at all.

Also, when im reading your content, I feel you describe everything as much harder compared to my experience. I have a crazy date to sex ratio. Do you think this is because my age (26), and will get harder over time, or do you think its because of other factors (my look, personality etc.) ?
Perhaps. Most of my dating experience is/was dating women 15, 20, 25 years younger than me, plus I'm overweight and have been much more overweight in the past when I was hitting the numbers hard. So yeah, if you're dating women your own age and look decent, it will indeed be easier for you.

Talking about "The Talk" I got an idea about early soft indirect intro of "The Talk" and that would be mentioning to my MLTR how things worked in my past open relationship. What I mean is the following. When girls ask me about my last LTR and if I cheated my last LTR (which all girls like to ask or I can drive conversation in that direction) I'm thinking of telling her that none of us was cheating because we had an open relationship. Then depending on how she reacts I can plan when to introduce The Talk.
NO. DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP OR RELATIONSHIP STUFF AT ALL BEFORE THE TALK.

I'm considering to have an OM next year.
Great, but I sincerely hope you over the age of 35. If you aren't, then please reconsider. You're too young.

Have you ever written any specific post about acquiring hot, new FBs after an open marriage? I mean cute and sexy girls, not average ones, nor the Sugar/Salt Daddy route.
Sporadically all over the place. I address that specifically in this book. (Which I am updating late next year.)

Every hot FB I've gotten over Tinder asked me about whether I'm in a serious relationship
That is very odd. I virtually never get that question, so you're putting out some kind of "I'm cheating on my wife/GF" vibe.

, so I feel that my chance to get new FBs over dating online will get significantly smaller after getting married (If I don't lie, of course, and I don't intend to).
Correct. Your statistical results will drop like a stone. But as long as they don't go to zero, you're okay (unless you really like to bang lots of girls.)

How to deal with that question as a married man?
1. Focus on women under the age of 23. They are far less likely to care.

2. Answer the question like it's no big deal. If you act like it's a big deal, it will be a big deal for her.

3. Put in lots and lots of numbers. Remember your statistical results will drop no matter what you do.

4. Try to find women who already have boyfriends, or even husbands (women with open marriages, swingers, etc). FBs with boyfriends are the BEST FBs to have when you're married. Most of my FBs today either have boyfriends or guys they're dating they really like. It makes things so much easier.
 

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Would you consider a country like Argentina, an example of a collapsed west? :p

What is your opinion on mainstream non-monogamy, polyamory or free love groups?
 

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Would you consider a country like Argentina, an example of a collapsed west?
I don't consider Argentina part of the West.

"The West," at least when I use the term, is:

USA (doomed)
Europe (doomed)
Canada (doomed)
Australia / New Zealand (might be okay, may just stagnate forever like Japan's been doing for 25 years; not sure)
somewhat Japan in some respects (doomed)

If it's outside of those things, it ain't the West.

In terms of Argentina being an example of something "collapsed", sure, it's an example, though what may actually happen to the West may be much worse (at least in some regions).

What is your opinion on mainstream non-monogamy, polyamory or free love groups?
Any non-monogamy is better than monogamy since monogamy doesn't work long-term no matter how you do it.

Once you get into the different types of non-monogamy, they aren't so much "good" or "bad" (at least in most cases) but a matter of preference. For example, I think swinging is great for a lot of people, but I personally would never do it because it's not my thing. It's a matter of what you like and what part of life you're in.
 

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In the manosphere there is a term called "alpha widow",or sth like that which means a girl who sleeps with a high sexual market value male , the alpha male, who does not wish to have a long-term relationship with the woman. The woman views the alpha male as superior to most, if not all, of the other men pursuing her, and so the woman continues to lust after the alpha male she cannot have and she compares every men that wants to have a relationship with her with that alpha,making her unable to fall in love with a men who is lower than that alpha.
My question is,if a girl sleeps with an alpha with big smv like charlie sheen,or tom cruise,or other alphas who are not celebrities ,can she still fall in love with a lesser alpha,or she will always pine for that big smv alpha from the past,"the one that got away",if in her life doesnt come a bigger alpha,than the one in the past?
Do you think,this theory is true?
 

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Do you think,this theory is true?
No. And I think it is perhaps the single dumbest, most needy, and most unlikely thing guys in the manosphere choose to worry about.
 

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Is it acceptable to have an FB spend the night if I am having sex with her all night? Or should I save the night-long marathon sex sessions for only mltrs?
 

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Hi Caleb,how much time do you spent in the past with a high end mltr in a week?How much time did you spent with a normal mltr in a week?
When you are with a mltr,do you do work,or when you are with her,you let work aside?
How much time minimum ,do you think i can spend with a high end mltr,without her feeling neglected?
You said in your books ,or in BD blog,that the first time you soft next someone you make it short 2,3 days.If i make the soft next longer,5 days for the first offense and a week and a half for the second time,do you think i will damage the relationship with the girl?
If i soft next for a week ,or more,do you think it is possible for a high end mltr to enter a monogamous relationship with another guy in that time,because she thinks i dump her and its over?
 

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Is it acceptable to have an FB spend the night if I am having sex with her all night?
No because you're not having sex all night. Eventually you're going to go to sleep.

Or should I save the night-long marathon sex sessions for only mltrs?
No, have a night-long marathon with your FB with the understanding that she needs to leave whenever you're done, regardless of what time that is. If she balks or if you don't want to do that, then skip it altogether.

Hi Caleb,how much time do you spent in the past with a high end mltr in a week?
2-3 days at the most.

How much time did you spent with a normal mltr in a week?
An entire day + spend the night at the most.

When you are with a mltr,do you do work,or when you are with her,you let work aside?
I'm Caleb Jones. I never let work slide.

If she's just over for the evening, I don't work. If she's with me all day or close to it, I work. I just tel her "I need to work now" and she watches TV or something in a different room while I work.

How much time minimum ,do you think i can spend with a high end mltr,without her feeling neglected?
There is no minimum and every woman is different.

It's very dangerous to think in terms of minimums in terms of time spent. That's beta and based in scarcity mentality. Only focus on maximums.

You said in your books ,or in BD blog,that the first time you soft next someone you make it short 2,3 days.If i make the soft next longer,5 days for the first offense and a week and a half for the second time,do you think i will damage the relationship with the girl?
It might. Depends on the girl. Getting soft nexted for the very first time is a traumatic experience for a woman so you need to be gentle.

If i soft next for a week ,or more,do you think it is possible for a high end mltr to enter a monogamous relationship with another guy in that time,because she thinks i dump her and its over?
Possible, of course. Likely, no. Soft nexting works.
 

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Caleb,from all the girls that you have fucked in your life,how many of them were dominant during sex?(Less than 5%?)Im wondering because im a submissive guy during sex.
 

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Caleb,from all the girls that you have fucked in your life,how many of them were dominant during sex?(Less than 5%?)Im wondering because im a submissive guy during sex.
Very, very few, and I hated it when it happened, but I don't like those girls so I'm unlikely to have sex with a lot of them.

If you're more submissive during sex, you should let women know this. On the first date you can ask her about how she likes to fuck and get an idea there, then the best time to verbally tell them is right before you have sex the second time.
 
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