This is going to make a lot of people mad. Sorry for your feelings ahead of time.
Like in Poker, I find the ability to read ppl well helps tremendously in choosing how to react with different ppl/situations.
I like where you are going with this. There are a lot of parallels between playing poker and peoples behavior. People do the same things over and over again and aren't even conscious they are doing it. That's why stereotyping in poker works.* Phil Helmuth's poker book is utterly worthless other than his discussion of "animal types" (which is just re-branded stereotyping and very good).
*this means if you see a young and aggressive player raise ten pots in a row and show down garbage, you can reasonably assume he's running without the ball a lot, as opposed to an older and more conservatively dressed player who hasn't put a chip in the pot in an hour, who is NEVER playing without some sort of hand.
**this does NOT mean that passive visual stereotyping is okay or valid. Observe the response to stimuli first, then stereotype them. If you see somebody who's a different ethnicity than you and you start judging them before you know anything about them, you are doing it wrong, and you are an awful person.
That's a bigger set of questions than you may think.
I don't agree at all. It's super easy if you ask the right questions. People will tell you all kinds of stuff you shouldn't know if you listen correctly and you know how to obtusely ask open ended questions. It's all in the set up.
In the course of conversation, either actively steer towards/or just wait till the conversation crosses the topic of bad behavior by women, specifically what their response is to a woman who gets out of line, or even better, gets physical. Or get on topic of what their woman won't let him do. Something like that where everyone has strong opinions. All men have experience with this, and their attitude and their response will tell you almost everything you need to know.
Recently, someone was bitching about some awful thing his wife did or another. I don't remember what specifically happened, but it was pretty serious, and in an effort to lighten the mood I quipped "You know, she's totally replaceable!" He got real serious and was "oh no, I couldn't do that". Most of the guys laughed in nervous agreement. One guy said "oh man, wait till we get home..." through gritted teeth.
Can you pick out the Alpha 2.0 (the one demonstrating outcome independence/abundance mentality), the betas (scarcity mentality), or the alpha 1.0 (the high drama control freak)?
I think you can!