FB flaking

[TL0]

I've been seeing a superhot 20 year old. We were FBs for the past 18 months. Another guy she is seeing now wants to be her bf and she is flaking on me even though they are not yet officially exclusive. I've told her it's all good and I understand and we can stay in contact. We used to write almost on a daily basis...I know that was my first mistake.
So what's my best shot to keep her on my roster in the long term? Not reply to her for a while til her new bf is her exbf or keep contacting her sporadically?
What do I reply when she writes me with specific questions: "How was your day?/ What are you doing?"

 

[AlphaActualization]

You mentioned that she is flaking on you but also posing you with specific questions. Are you being flaked on actual meetups you had planned or simply not receiving daily communication?

Yes, you broke one of the nine cardinal rules in that you engaged her with frequent (daily) communication.

When you receive specific questions from her, playfully communicate and segway into planning your next meetup.

You said yourself that they are not officially exclusive, so your modus operandi currently needs to be planning the next meetup and making her cum as you hopefully have been as per one of the nine cardinal rules.

 

[TL0]

Yes she has been coming always...and now she is flaking on meetups. She only told me yesterday that she doesn't feel good seeing me anymore, because it hurts her other man.
Since then we hadn't had contact. I also live in a different city and am only in her city maybe every 8 weeks- so by contacting/replying to her daily, i hoped to keep up the communication channel, which wirked well until yesterday.
Do I live her alone for a while and not write her or should I initiate contact to meet up with her (even though apparently currently isnt so comfortable with that?)

 

[joelsuf]

This is gonna sound like tough love but you gotta understand that its coming from the right place.

There is no such thing as flaking when it comes to FBs.

Look at it this way: What if your male buddies started doing this stuff?

Would you care at all?

I sure wouldn't.

Looks like you are tho, just your two posts here reveal NRE. Probably because she's a good looking 20 year old and you maybe don't get with those types too often.

Also...she's a 20 year old chick. Chicks that age generally have no concept of following through on plans cuz they simply have no incentive to.

I'll be honest dude, you should probably adjust your expectations of this chick especially if she's just an FB.

I mean if I have an FB who is meh looking and pushing 50 and I expect her to flake/get a bf, what should you be doing?

Do I leave her alone for a while

Yes. Literally stop all contact and focus your energy on getting another FB. Let her hit you up, if she does. Considering she's 20, she's probably already forgotten about you. That's how chicks under 30 are mane. Just gotta suck it up.

Again, there is no such thing as flaking when it comes to FBs. If they fail to meet up, go get yourself another FB who will agree to hang out with you. Simple. And to me, there isn't such a thing as flaking at all tbh. If any chick fails to meet up with me then big whoop, I'll just find myself another chick no matter how many times I have seen her or how many times we have had sex.

This is why it is important to have a damn rotation. Just like you should be diversifying your income (a hard lesson that I've been learning over the last three years) you need to diversify the chicks that you are seeing.

For example, I got two chicks I'm trying to lock in and an FB. The FB recently got a bf but dumped him cuz she thought he was running around (he probably wasn't but she gets real paranoid when she catches feels). I only see her if I haven't had sex in a while. The other two are single. I'm very close to locking in one and its only a matter of time before I lock in another. I plan to make one an FB and the other a kinda serious relationship. Either way, it isn't enough and I need to add a couple more to my rotation since chicks come and go constantly these day.

Unless you are trying to start a family or something, you should always be going out with about 5 or so chicks at a time. Keep a rotation and you won't be posting topics like this anymore. Make it a new years resolution.

Hope this helps.

 

[TL0]

Thanks @jielsuf for taking the time to reply. In terms of rotation I'm doing alright. 3 girls in my city and then a couple of FB in other cities- so I'm comfortable in terms of getting laid on a regular basis. But as you've already guessed correctly, this 20 year old is a real stunner and definitely the hottest in my roster. I just like chicks in their early twenties and who are not completely brainfucked. The next youngest is a 26yo who gets on my nerves occasionally because she's somewhat irrational.

She's contacted me again yesterday asking how I'm doing. I'm leaving the city tomorrow. Do you guys have a good wording to playfully ask her to hang out?

 

[Papi Knox]

What do I reply when she writes me with specific questions: "How was your day?/ What are you doing?"

If you aren't dating, you aren't talking.

She reaches out, plan a date. She says yes or no.

Then you act accordingly.