I got nexted right after lock-in.

hollywood

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22 year old, met online, ghosted me a month bc got a boyfriend as we were talking. That didn't last, she hit me up, I fucked her Friday night and Saturday night, going back to my home in between. Sunday she bitched that I wasn't talking to her enough, and on Monday changed relationship status to a new boyfriend.... I messaged her "you are in another relationship?" She read and didn't respond. I said "Ok best of luck to you, hit me up if you still want to see me." Ever had something like this happen?
 

wodonga

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In a somewhat similar situation to you. Mine was a 23yo, fantastic sex, then short texts back and forth which became more terse. Then no response to my last text last week. Mine may be a ghost after ONS, but I I think it has similar qualities.

Caleb has an article in BD somewhere where I think I read that one of the main things (especially with this VYW) is that she immediately got ASD and is shoving the whole entire affair down the memory hole. "If I do not respond, it did not happen, I did not just become a slut" sort of thinking. Might be that, mate. I also seem to remember hearing a long time ago a phrase, "They are not responding to YOU." In other words, what she is doing is because she is freaking out about her own actions/thoughts and is not directly in response to you, your actions or anything you said. That, and she's a 22yo which is practically a teenage mind-set.
 

lenox

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It happens. Onto the next one.

Here's what you'll do in the future so this happens less, and possibly never again.

1— Fuck and then leave. Ideally the girls visits you. Then you send her home. Setting dates no later than 7 PM helps to manage this.

2— Disregard her comments for more attention with an FB. Make a flippant comment and then propose the next date.

"I have pretty eventful life, it's awesome. We should get together Thursday at 2 PM darling."

3— Never reach out to an FB unless to schedule a date. Say your hello, lite banter to keep it fun, then segue to confirmed date within a few back and forth. If you spend more than 5 minutes cumulatively on talking you're doing it wrong.

4— Don't keep tabs on women. What she does outside of sucking your cock is of no concern to you with an FB. Who cares that her meaningless FB status changed?

4— Date more women. Setup dates with as many women as possible. Have sex with as many and lock-in fast with each. Then schedule each weekly. This process will help you to discover how many FBs you can manage and want to have in your life. Most men enjoy 2-3. I have one FB and one MLTR, and room for more.

Based on what you've shared you didn't do these 5 essential things and came off as needy 5x over. Thus, she played you.

Avoid being played again and treat dating and fucking like a system, which it is.

The system you follow to attract and keep women in your life for longer relationship.

No different than any other system you us such as bathing or paying your bills. Follow the steps, if you don't know them read BDs book GET TO SEX FAST.


Absolute game changer and you'll notice yourself becoming a new man within 30 days IF you apply it. Positively affects your relationship with men too so you can profit in other areas of your life.
 

Federico

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A better responde could have been just Ok best of luck to you"

The "hit me up if you still want to see me" is implied because you want to fuck all girls but if you say it, you are needy, which Is something you dont need to be!

Yes, happened and will happen always
 

hollywood

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A better responde could have been just Ok best of luck to you"

The "hit me up if you still want to see me" is implied because you want to fuck all girls but if you say it, you are needy, which Is something you dont need to be!

Yes, happened and will happen always

I only said the hit me up part in case she still wants to fuck even though she has a bf. A lot of women assume if they got a bf, you won't want to fuck them. So still should not have worded it like that?
 

Federico

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I only said the hit me up part in case she still wants to fuck even though she has a bf. A lot of women assume if they got a bf, you won't want to fuck them. So still should not have worded it like that?
Mmh, i think women already know. But trying to be clear so as she comes back, is also needy.

Man, acting non needy Is very difficult, but it makes you happy
 

hollywood

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Alright. I wonder if I fucked up from the beginning though because this is the first VYW I've been with, being 35, maybe I did it wrong somehow. I don't feel needy about her, but she definitely was a monogamous type so I threw in the hit me up part to make sure she knew I'd still be down regardless.
 

lenox

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Stick to the system. Not what you think or feel.

This is new to you so you can't trust yourself since you're basing it on past experiences.

Treat it like a procedure and you'll be OK.
 

C Lo

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I wonder if I fucked up from the beginning though because
Have you ever done anything exactly right and got a bad outcome? It happens from time to time in business and relationships.

VYW are notoriously flaky, and it's not like women aren't fickle to begin with. If you do everything exactly right every time, this is still going to happen. I'd not be inclined to worry about it much.
 
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