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[AFC]

What to call your MLTR? Babe is fine? We're dating but she's not my gf? Those are the limits? That seems to be where we're at

 

[Papi Knox]

Doesn't matter assuming you're in control of yourself and the relationship

I recommend a teasing pet name, something you'd call your pet sister

This helsp to remind you to never take her seriously and for her to always aim to please you so that you show her more "respect"

 

[AFC]

Yea I like that frame a lot
Catching feelings for a girl can be difficult to avoid the love word..
Having such relationships 'end' can be good perspective on context as well

 

[Papi Knox]

This might help

Your goal is to live undisturbed by your environment

What's called imperturbable

Emotions are signals to key you in on choosing between getting caught up in feelings or staying unbothered by manipulating a conditions

They let you know you have a choice to make either go into your feelings or commit to preserving your wellbeing

For instance fear is a sign to say you're in danger get out of the way of the car coming towards you OR get scared and freeze

Same applies to relationships

You are caught in your feelings because women are designed to steer you off your course and their weapon is distraction and feelings

Be smart, shift to what matters most which is you and your Mission

PLUS, it's OK to love a girl

I NEVER say it because I don't believe in it

But women are like dogs, you'll love them as much (or more) than your dog, but you must trust them less than you would your dog

Saying love is respecting that they can't be trusted UNTIL they prove themselves

Most men miss this and don't even know how to prove if a women genuinely loves and is trustworthy

 

[AFC]

I'm a really affectionate guy and so I'm struggling a little with the idea of not using the word love. I really want to use this, even if I think back to past girls, I wouldn't mind using more affectionate words, obviously not if it would result in betaisation and loss of attraction... this is something I'm working with

 

[Papi Knox]

Describe love

 

[TheMaleBrain]

I'm a really affectionate guy and so I'm struggling a little with the idea of not using the word love. I really want to use this, even if I think back to past girls, I wouldn't mind using more affectionate words, obviously not if it would result in betaisation and loss of attraction... this is something I'm working with

I hear you.
I have been using the same pet name (in free translation it means "little one") for all the girls I see. MLTR, FB or whatever.
Once you use it several times, it becomes her "name" (=pet name).
You text and talk to her using that "name".
It shows affection. She also sees it as something special to her (even though it is not).

As per love - adhere to CH commandment #1 "Never say ‘I Love You’ first "
If you love her (that's your emotion and you should really sort it out with yourself) - wait for her to say it first.
I strongly advise against it, but it is your life.