MLTR wants a baby

hollywood

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Lenox J. Just came here to say you were right. I just realized it. I am straight nexting this bitch. Not worth it man. My happiness. But you got me thinking about it. Thank you.
 

lenox

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You're welcome brother. Everything I do is to help ya find your ow version of happiness.

The only thing that matters in this life is being happy. Whenever something feels off, just ask... am I happy with X in my life? The answer will guide you to the next steps without any regret.

That said if you follow through with your choice here, it won't be fun or easy at first. That's OK and expected, but it's important, if and only if, you're doing it for your longterm happiness. Any other reason will create more unhappiness. No bueno.
 

Leon

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To each its own and I support your decision, you know what makes you happy long-term, not me.

However, I never understand the need to next or downgrade a girl based on an irrational fear from our part (unless she did something other than just saying she might want kid). Especially when you've never clearly stated your boundary on the kid thing with her (from what I read).

If it was me, I would tell her, loud and clear, that I don't want kid, at least for the near future, and she must not attempt to have one with me. If she barks, then it gives me some real ammunition to next her, instead of irrational fear.
 

hollywood

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Leon, your advice is good too, and I can answer your question. This mltr was always sneaking in little bits of drama and trying to beta me to the point it was making me unhappy and changing some of the ways I do things. I have nexted her and already she has called every phone number of mine she knows of (3), text all the numbers, messaged me on 3 different social medias. And most of it is her telling me I am being immature for ignoring her and she doesn't have to put up with it. Ok then don't put up with it lol.
 

lenox

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However, I never understand the need to next or downgrade a girl based on an irrational fear from our part (unless she did something other than just saying she might want kid). Especially when you've never clearly stated your boundary on the kid thing with her (from what I read).
@Leon there's no irrational fear here. If a woman wants to have babies and you do not, it's not a match. In this forum along we've seen men who have had this go awry for them because they let it slide. This type of woman doesn't need to own any extra space in our life, and even as an FB that's irresponsible. Way too many women in the world to deal with things that you don't want.
 
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