Question about ASD


New member
May 11, 2019
I'm having trouble understanding why ASD increases with age, and would appreciate any insight on this topic.

Speaking as a woman, it seems like it should be the opposite...? When I was young, I was obsessed with keeping my number of partners low in order to remain "marriageable." As I grew older, my ASD declined because of the following reasons:
  1. I became more familiar with, and less fearful of, casual sex (i.e. I had it, and the world didn't end).
  2. The more partners I had, the less it made sense to keep my number down (diminishing returns), so I just gave up on the whole idea altogether.
  3. I realized that the kinds of guys who were typically attracted to me didn't really give a shit about my sexual history, anyway (and vice versa).
  4. I grew more confident that there were other things of value I brought to a relationship that men seemed to prioritize over chastity.
  5. Sex became more of a priority to me, so the cost of turning it down became higher.
  6. I became less susceptible to societal programming, in general.
I get that some of those reasons are probably fairly unique to me, but #2 seems pretty universal, no? A virgin, or near-virgin, is going to feel very protective of that status, and consequently highly motivated to retain her chastity (or at least the appearance of it). But once a woman has had more than a certain number of partners, doesn't she begin to realize that there is no longer any point in keeping her number down? Like, the "modesty" ship has already sailed...


Caveman lenox
Staff member
Mar 11, 2019
Real question is: Are you happy living the way you're living?


Apr 30, 2019
Speaking as a woman, it seems like it should be the opposite...?
For me its the opposite. Most of the 35+ chicks I go out with are ridiculously horny and see no problems with having sex on a second meeting. The 19-25 crowd are just as great.

It's the 25-30 crowd that is either psychotically horny or just make me wait forever lol