Question about ASD


New member
May 11, 2019
I'm having trouble understanding why ASD increases with age, and would appreciate any insight on this topic.

Speaking as a woman, it seems like it should be the opposite...? When I was young, I was obsessed with keeping my number of partners low in order to remain "marriageable." As I grew older, my ASD declined because of the following reasons:
  1. I became more familiar with, and less fearful of, casual sex (i.e. I had it, and the world didn't end).
  2. The more partners I had, the less it made sense to keep my number down (diminishing returns), so I just gave up on the whole idea altogether.
  3. I realized that the kinds of guys who were typically attracted to me didn't really give a shit about my sexual history, anyway (and vice versa).
  4. I grew more confident that there were other things of value I brought to a relationship that men seemed to prioritize over chastity.
  5. Sex became more of a priority to me, so the cost of turning it down became higher.
  6. I became less susceptible to societal programming, in general.
I get that some of those reasons are probably fairly unique to me, but #2 seems pretty universal, no? A virgin, or near-virgin, is going to feel very protective of that status, and consequently highly motivated to retain her chastity (or at least the appearance of it). But once a woman has had more than a certain number of partners, doesn't she begin to realize that there is no longer any point in keeping her number down? Like, the "modesty" ship has already sailed...

Lenox J

Sophisticated Caveman
Staff member
Mar 11, 2019
Real question is: Are you happy living the way you're living?


New member
Apr 30, 2019
Speaking as a woman, it seems like it should be the opposite...?
For me its the opposite. Most of the 35+ chicks I go out with are ridiculously horny and see no problems with having sex on a second meeting. The 19-25 crowd are just as great.

It's the 25-30 crowd that is either psychotically horny or just make me wait forever lol