She wants me to contact her more often to maintain the connection

TL0

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One girl I'm seeing (we've had sex on two different occasions and she's MLTR material) wants me to contact her more often. We didn't have sex on our last date, because she wasn't feeling the connection. Later she told me it's because I write her so little.
Now I do want to have sex with her. What do I write her to fill her "connection needs" and how often?
I know the three times per week rule, but what do I write to her, when I'm not asking her to come over, without losing my frame?
 

Papi Knox

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You date more women, which you clearly aren't right now

Open 100 more women this week, if not 250

Convert them to first dates

Convert to lays

She'll get the whiff of it and decide if she wants to do what it takes to keep your attention or walk away
 

Pickle Rick

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Writing her in any way sounds like a waste of time.

Not having sex with you because she wasn't feeling the connection means you have been moved into the friend zone and you have been put on the back burner in case her main interest stands her up.

Forget about it and move on and if she returns to you with renewed interest then hit it and move on again.

Keep her in the FB class.
 

Lex

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Funny.

I had one that stopped talking to me for 3 days, then saw I was playing a video game online (we would play together), and wrote to me, told me I failed her test. Which test? She said if I thought about her all the time, why didn’t I write to her at all but I have time for video games. I said I never said I thought about her all the time, cause I didn’t. Long story short she asked me for more attention, so either way I failed her test. I ended up saying she failed my test too. 😂 she wondered what test, and never got the answer, but still writes.

This attention thing is them really requiring more from you, aka to get you into “beta” tendencies. Wake up, write to her early in the AM, tell her what you eat, how great would it be for her to be there and all this other shit nonstop. Just so she feels better about her self.
 

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It seems like you are trying to adjust to her frame, which is bad. Allways keep the relationship on your terms, not hers. You need your frame to be rock solid, especially in the start of a relationship. It looks like she's using sex as a tool to get you into her frame as her monogamous boyfriend.

Tell her what YOU need and that you want to take things slowly, but that you love spending time with her and have sex with her when you're not busy. Remember: you are the prize.
 

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Important to keep in mind at all times: KEEP EXPECTATIONS AS LOW AS POSSIBLE.

How you act with her at the beginning of a relationship, you need to be prepared doing at all times. I.e your frame now will backfire if you change it later. The way you text with her today is the way she expects it to be in the future.

In order to keep the relationship moving forward, as all women crave, the need for a bare minimum investment (any kind) from you at the start is essential. You then build the relationship by adding more investment but in as small steps as possible. (A girl of mine were thrilled and very happy when I, after about 6 months, finally spent almost a day with her).

Keep that in mind when texting. Yes, you are absolutely right; you should be concerned about details like this. I would said to her that I'm a man not used to, and don't like texting too much, but I will respond to your messages when I'm capable of doing so. Respond to her massages as little as possible and try not to send her anything by your own.
 
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