Soft Next From At Your Place

Gulliver

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Gulliver

I get the impression you still give a shit.

When I was running around Vegas teaching Mystery Method (yeah, that old) the best analogy or mind model I can give you is The Rock Star.

Just get into that headspace of I am a rock star and everything else falls into place.

In Rock Star mindset you never overthink anything with a woman because:

1. You don't give a shit. ZFG. Or as Caleb puts it "Outcome Independent."

2. There's alway another one (or more) around the corner. Caleb calls this "Abundance Mindset."

When you grok the archetype all these things come natural.

All the acronyms concerning soft next and such are just guidelines like the Pirate Code.

You will make mistakes.

But you are a rock star.
Thanks. Although I'm not sure why you think I give a shit. I really disagree with you guys on the "you can't have emotions" or "can't be angry" stuff. That is not what Caleb is teaching in his books. I do think a rockstar mentality is great but FFS, if something makes me angry, it's for a reason, and it's good to let it out. If I hit my foot in stone I say "Fuck!" nothing wrong with that.
 

Pickle Rick

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First

If she's at your place then that's your place of power.

Get her the fuck out.

Make an excuse and say you were called in to work but if she's pulling shit why is she at your place in the first place.

We all have that emotional aspect and the strategy is you don't want to show the emotion.

It's a matter of adjusting the inner volume control.

Everyone gets mad but some guys have tantrums and break stuff.

The difference also, in this case, has to with level of concern.

I suppose I should provide the disclaimer that before we even get into how to treat a girl you have to look at the one's you are choosing and how you are interacting with them.

And you are the one choosing because it's your show.

You have to look at the tells.

Nowadays, I can accurately gauge what kind of woman I am dealing with in a matter of seconds and most of them aren't worth my time.

Sometimes you just want sex with someone who's not your ideal partner. (Spoiler: there is no ideal partner.)

I will give you an example.

You meet a girl.

You go out a few times.

You have sex.

If you go to the bedroom (or bathroom) at her place and there is a condom wrapper in the trash (or someone sex texts her while you are with her--you get the point) then most likely you aren't the only bucking bronco.

Are you going to get pissed.

No.

Because that's not how a smooth alpha rolls.

You don't say anything.

Because...

You are outcome independent.

And you get to go back to your place because a Alpha doesn't live with women for multiple excellent reasons.

You have a hold on reality and you are just fucking her--nothing more.
 

Papi Knox

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In my updated example there's no emotion. I took that out. The emotion was in the first version.
This is a blindspot for you. You are unconsciously incompetent on this topic. We want to get you to conscious incompetence. Since you can't see the emotion in this, you still have lots of work to do, which will come with experience.
 

Papi Knox

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Although I'm not sure why you think I give a shit.
You wrote about online. And you think about it for more than 30 seconds. You care.

Caring is not the issue.

Having emotion is never an issue.

It's letting your emotions control your actions that's not masculine.

Don't be a bitch.

Move through this with a strong mind and put your emotions in check. If you can't do this, women will do it for you and then you'll be yet another man ruled by the women in his life.

Choice is yours.

Choose wisely.
 

Gulliver

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This is a blindspot for you. You are unconsciously incompetent on this topic. We want to get you to conscious incompetence. Since you can't see the emotion in this, you still have lots of work to do, which will come with experience.
Do you think insulting me makes you an alpha? I basically used your original line and just a little customized it. Nothing I say is ever good for you and I'm always incompetent. I'm out of here. This is not the mentality of Caleb.
 

Papi Knox

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Do you think insulting me makes you an alpha?
This is a description. Reread again, and don't take it personal.

But yes, if you are uncomfortable and prone to taking things personal this might not be for you. I've been where you are and grown from it. I took responsibility for ALL my choices and made the hard commitment to not let my emotions blind me. Now I'm sharing how I did it, and not lying to you when you make mistakes and set yourself up for disappointment.

That won't ever change.

No hard feelings, if you choose to go.

I wish you the best on your journey.
 
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