When she starts fucking someone else but stays with you.

hollywood

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This may be normal for many of you, but only my FB's have stayed with me while fucking someone else so far. MLTR's have always left me to start fucking someone else. Welllllllll, my MLTR is bisexual and has been sleeping overnight and fucking a pure lesbian for a week. She went way cold with me and now feels almost more like an FB since going so cold, but still she plans to be with me tomorrow. My question is what things should I do differently now? Doesn't it follow that I need to be more Alpha in this scenario? Any other advice?
 

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Let's start with what do you want. I'm not sure, but once you decide on that, you'll know what to do. Plus people here can help you.
 

hollywood

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Well its more like she is downgrading me to FB. Just not sure if I need to be doing something different. I almost loved this woman and that is kinda faded now but she can just be an FB and that will free up more of my time, beyond that, I've never been downgraded by a woman, they are typically trying to push for #1 status at all times. Just in unfamiliar territory and the whole thing feels strange so I'm checking here for advice.
 

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The issue is that you're not dominant in your relationship

You follow her instead of the opposite

This situation is fucked unless you radically assert and maintain dominance

I don't see that happening

Cut your losses

Move forward and start being dominant within your own life and with women so this happens less or never again
 

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I don't see how I'm not dominant in my relationship. At least until this point. She has decided to be with someone new yet not cut me out, so technically at that moment if I stay, I am not dominant? Up to this point it's always been my way, unless she nexts me, so if a woman basically downgrades you, staying is not the right move?
 

lenox

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Brother your logic is off

For some reason you equate women to men

You think they think like you do... they don't

Women are emotional creatures, which is why they respond positively to dominance

If you were dominant, she'd follow your lead

You're not, you're submissive... so much so you're saying sure go with that other option... I'll be a good boy and wait patiently over here

She wants you to take charge with this shit test, and you're not

Take note you don't have to do it my way, but Caleb's way works well too, which is DATE DOZENS OF WOMEN

Clearly you're not doing that and she knows it

She's calling you out on having a basic life, and you're not mad enough about it to want to improve your position

Get angry. Want to level up further. Make Hollywood Great and Dominant (again?)
 

hollywood

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I guess I don't agree with you this time. MLTR's are allowed to fuck other people. It was nice when she didn't, but now she is. She is allowed to. To react to that would be outcome dependent and my option would be to next her which I think would end her return rate. If I reacted to her sleeping with someone else by nexting her, she would lose attraction no? Because I am reacting to her bullshit instead of letting her do whatever the hell she wants because I have other women I can just go fuck. She been living with this girl now for a week and messaged me today, she is missing me and can't wait to see me later this week. We meet when it works for me. She would gladly give me more days with her and less with her girl, but I won't allow more days with her. I don't feel like I'm submissive in the slightest. She occasionally complains its always my way when it comes to my time. The only thing that happened here is she started fucking someone else and cooled down the temp of our relationship. The only reason I made a post about it is to see how other people handle the same situation. BD lets his mltr's fuck other people. I'd bet he has had a woman who was only seeing him and then started fucking someone else later on. I am just interested in the Alpha 2.0 way of handling that. Since I've got very little advice so far on handling that, what I'm doing is just treating her more like an fb and if she fades away so be it.

I'm listening to you, but I follow the books and blog of BD and what I just wrote is how I have interpreted his material. If you can correct me specifically where I am wrong, I'm all ears.
 

hollywood

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Also, while her little friend is too boyish looking for me, I think being cool about the whole thing might lead to possible 3some action going forward and I'm a little curious if that's a possibility.
 

lenox

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Everything about this thread is reactionary... that's the point

Take charge

She'll respond in kind, much differently than she does now with you
 
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