When should I disclose to a FB that I have a OLTR?

[brbr]

Hey guys,

When should I disclose to a FB that I have a OLTR? In the first date? After lock-in? In The Talk? Doesn't matter?

I think it should be after lock-in, increasing the chances she'll be fine with it, but then she would probably see my OLTR's stuff in my place and maybe that would cause some problems (avoiding getting to sex).

Thanks!

 

[Papi Knox]

Break it down.

1— Why would you ever tell her?

 

[Tiger]

I think it depends on her apparent expectations- but I generally do it early on to avoid having to much of a stack of drama or deciept by withholding information.

 

[Papi Knox]

I think it depends on her apparent expectations- but I generally do it early on to avoid having to much of a stack of drama or deciept by withholding information.

This highlights the real topic— CALIBRATION or as I prefer it LOGISTICS

It's not what you do, it's how you do it.

My approach is to show it so she knows it, and never has to ask.

Based on my IG, online work, and how I walk and talk EVERYONE knows what I do. There's no hiding it, so talking about it would be stupid like discussing brushing your teeth. It's just something I do, duh. Deal with it.

If this is not you, then you need to match your proactive image to your personality. Your style that doesn't need words.

This works because women are indirect. They don't want direct talk or conversations, even though they may say it, they don't really mean it.

 

[sergo]

I’m happy this topic is open, have a similar question. I’m married and don’t know if i should wear a ring on a first date or no? Should i bring it up in the conversation or no that i am married. It’s also a logistical problem if we get to my place there is lot of stuff from my wife and my rules are never lie to my girls, the problem is just i don’t know how to make this talk on a first date. For a second date this topic is probably too late? I never heard BD talking about it so here I’m really missing some pieces

 

[Papi Knox]

The decisions are yours to make. We can't tell you what to do, but I can share how to do it. How to think about it.

Logistics is the name of the game. This may be worth creating a new thread or hopping in the Telegram/Discord Rooms to discuss (https://t.me/alphamale20group/https://discord.gg/8H3Xjm29). Better yet SMIC, for sure.

For now I can say this.

1— Choose one that is easiest for your personality type. If you are willing to grow, do the harder one for the more power-FULL lessons and skills you'll learn.

2— What does your wedding ring symbolize? The answer will guide your next steps

3—Have you read THE UNCHAINED MAN yet? A reread along with this will put you at ease with a sense of knowing what's ahead and how to anticipate it.

4— Ultimately, you do what you want. No need to "talk" about anything with these girls. Do what you want. Have fun. Show them a thrilling time. It's only an issue, if YOU make it an issue. Get your mind right before your next date.

 

[sergo]

Thank you for all your answers. I never thought it in this way but yes there is still some sort of fear deep inside me that I am making something prohibited, its social programming.
I read the uncahined man, I also bought the "maximum freedom aplha male 2.0 Course" two years ago and since then things are really moving fast. I also had "the talk" with my girl and we married recently. Now I am searching new FBs as a married man. Actually nothing changed, but the SP is quite big sitting still in me. As you say, its just a problem if I make it a problem - really like this one!

 

[Papi Knox]

What are you prohibited from doing? And why does it bother you?

 

[sergo]

It is how I was raised and how I was living the majority of my life in disney world. I’m aware of it but it’s not so easy to overcome it. Consciously nothing bothers me anymore, I am a free man I understand the theoretical part but there is still much work to be done in the practical part.