I tried to find a blog post on BDB's site about when to tell her that you are seeing other girls but I couldn't. I remember Caleb mentioning it in one of the blog posts that when he started out his non-monogamous lifestyle he tried to tell the girls upfront with no success. But then I don't know what he found out what's the best approach to this? Perhaps he has a blog post on this, if so could you link it for me? What's your personal approach?